Dear Abby: Unwilling husband and father just wants a life to himself

Dear Abby: I joined the Navy after I learned I was becoming a father. I didn’t want to be a husband or father, but I did both. In 2010, my wife died. My feelings about being a husband and father never changed. Our two children are now grown and want me to move near — or in with — them. They say, “Won’t it be great to be with your grandkids?” No, it won’t! I worked and supported my family. When I was in port, I went to baseball, softball and basketball games, had tea with my daughter and did everything I believe I should have done. I have served my time. I don’t want to “be close.” I don’t love them, and I didn’t love their mother. I did my duty to the best of my abilities both in uniform and in family.