How long does it typically take to load your raft for a multiday trip when "dragging" family along?

My spouse and I get into these crazy heated arguments, usually at the launch ramp, about how long it takes to load and unload our raft. And, why rafting is not that relaxing because it takes so much effort to get out on the river or lake. We can't "pre-load" the raft as our utility trailer is not set up for a good dunk and our van is only front wheel drive so if we couldn't get enough traction (wet, muddy or sandy) things would get ugly fast.

We have a 16ft raft with frame that is decent at...

How long does it typically take to load your raft for a multiday trip when "dragging" family along?